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2026, Adulthood, ☁️, Self care, Self love, YOLO, You, You matter, You only live once

My happy girl things.

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What are 5 everyday things that bring you happiness?

A good self care day

Nothing makes me happier than a full self care day. Hair treatments, a fresh blowdry, getting my nails done, a relaxing pedicure, and a massage just make me feel so refreshed, confident, and put together. I also love getting my hair colored twice a year, it feels like such a fun little transformation and makes me feel brand new. It’s honestly the best reset ever.

A good shopping spree

Shopping is my happy place! Whether I’m scrolling online or walking through the mall, I love it all. Sephora, Mango, Zara, Ulta… I could spend hours looking at makeup, clothes, and shoes. It just instantly lifts my mood.

Coffee with the right people

Coffee feels so much better when it’s with the right person. Sitting there, talking about everything and nothing, laughing, venting, and just being completely unfiltered is such a comforting feeling.

Driving

I absolutely love driving. It’s just me, my music, and my thoughts. It feels so peaceful and freeing, like my own little escape where I can just be in the moment.

Quiet time to myself

As much as I love being around people, I really value my alone time. Just relaxing, unwinding, and enjoying a little peace makes me feel recharged and balanced again. Even sleeping peacefully without an alarm just makes it feel extra special.

2025, Love, Love yourself, Self care, Self love, Skin Care, Toxic Culture, YOLO, You, You matter, You only live once

The Power of Being You

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We live in a time where scrolling through social media often feels like flipping through a magazine of edited perfection. Celebrities and influencers have access to makeup artists, fillers, Photoshop, and filters—and yet, we compare ourselves to them in our most natural state. No wonder so many people feel insecure.

But here’s the truth: you don’t need fake lashes, fake nails, or endless beauty treatments to be worthy of love and confidence. You are beautiful as you are. That doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy makeup, skincare, or even high-maintenance procedures if they make you feel good—it just means your value doesn’t depend on them.

Everyone has their own version of beauty. What makes you stand out isn’t how much you look like an influencer, but how much you look like yourself. When you stop chasing the illusion of perfection, you’ll find that your natural features, your quirks, and even the things you thought were “flaws” are what make you unique.

So take a break from comparing. Put the phone down for a while. Look in the mirror without filters, and remind yourself: this is me—and I am enough.

2025, Aba❤️, Life Lesson, live & let live, Live a little, Love, You matter, You only live once

The Art of Walking Lightly, Living Wisely

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What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

Some of the most profound lessons I’ve carried in life weren’t from books or lectures—they were from conversations with my father. His words were simple, but they’ve stayed with me, guiding me through moments of confusion, growth, and change.

Do good and forget about it.

Goodness is not a transaction—it’s a reflection of who you are. When you do something kind, don’t wait for recognition or repayment. Life has its own way of returning what you give, sometimes in ways you’d never expect. The same applies to ill intentions: those who plot harm often find themselves ensnared by their own traps. Life is circular; what goes around always comes around.

Arrogance is for the foolish.

Every day is an opportunity to learn. Mistakes, missteps, and even heartbreaks are teachers if you’re willing to listen. To walk through life thinking you know it all is to close yourself off from growth. True strength lies in humility and the ability to adapt with each new lesson.

Be wise with your resources.

Money comes and goes, but discipline in spending shapes your freedom. Confidence, however, is a different kind of wealth. When you walk into a room, know that no one else can be you. That quiet certainty is far more valuable than arrogance—it’s self-respect without the need for comparison.

Guard your circle.

Loneliness is better than being surrounded by serpents. Not everyone who smiles at you wishes you well. A friend to all is often a friend to none. The ones who truly matter are selective with their trust and protective of their space. Sometimes, solitude is not isolation—it’s preservation.

In all these lessons lies a single thread: life is both a teacher and a mirror. What you give, you receive. What you learn, you become. And what you protect, protects you in return.

“To know yourself is a lifetime’s work; to pretend you know others is arrogance.”

2025, contentment, family, live & let live, Live a little, Live in the moment, Love, Time, You, You matter

Places, People, Moments: The Beauty of Impermanence

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“ But if you knew, you might not be able to see it again tomorrow, everything would suddenly become special and precious, wouldn’t it?”

— Kafka on the Shore, Haruki Murakami

We move through life assuming continuity—believing the places we love will stay, the people we cherish will remain, and the moments we live will repeat themselves. But what if they don’t?

This quote from Kafka on the Shore is a quiet reminder of impermanence. It urges us to see the beauty in the ordinary, to treat today not as another page in a never-ending book, but as a fragile, irreplaceable chapter.

That hallway in your childhood home where the light always falls a certain way. The friend you always assume you’ll see next weekend. The elder who would guide you with their wisdom won’t be sitting at the table again as they did. The lazy Sunday morning filled with silence and coffee. They might not be there tomorrow. Not in the same way.

We often chase big dreams and future plans, but perhaps the real magic lies in the small things we take for granted. Noticing them. Being present for them. Valuing them—not because they are rare, but because they are fleeting.

So next time you’re with someone you love, or in a moment that feels simple and still, pause. Soak it in. Because knowing it might not come again doesn’t make it sad—it makes it sacred.

2025, 🇵🇰, Islam, Peace over anything, People refusing to grow with time, South Punjab, Toxic Brown Culture, Toxic Culture, Toxic Pakistani Culture, Toxic Relatives, wise words 👏🏻, Women matter, You matter

Between Culture and Compassion

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When a mother has a baby girl, people sometimes respond with comments like, “Don’t worry, maybe you’ll have a boy next time,” as if having a daughter is somehow disappointing. These remarks often reflect outdated beliefs or personal biases, rather than any real issue. The truth is, daughters are just as valuable and bring their own unique joy to a family. The connection between daughters and their parents—especially with their fathers—can be incredibly strong and meaningful. Every child is a gift, regardless of gender.

Let me be clear — I don’t associate myself with feminist ideology. But I also believe that expecting women to suffer in silence, to sacrifice endlessly without emotional support or understanding, is something I can’t accept.

We live in a time where women still feel pressured to marry based on societal expectations, not emotional connection. Many go through heartbreak, yet are expected to carry on — often having child after child in homes where love and care may be missing. It’s heartbreaking, and it’s real.

Our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) married Bibi Khadija (RA), a widow who proposed to him. Islam honored women and gave them the right to choose. But somewhere along the way, culture and customs overshadowed that message. Today, a woman taking a step forward for herself is often misunderstood or unfairly judged.

This isn’t about blaming anyone. It’s about rethinking what we’ve normalized.

Women deserve respect, choice, and emotional safety — just like men do. We need to build a society where both are treated with fairness and dignity. It’s not about one being above the other — it’s about walking side by side.

I will always be grateful to my angel of a father. He wasn’t a typical Baloch father — he gave me freedom, respect, and unwavering admiration. He loved me with a kindness and understanding that shaped who I am. Since his passing, I’ve felt permanently deprived of that kind of love and comfort. He was my safe place, my constant — the one I could turn to no matter how hard life got. My friend, my strength, my father — my everything.

I truly wish more fathers could be like him — trusting, loving, and always holding a soft spot for their daughters, no matter what.

2025, Adulthood, live & let live, Love, peace, self awareness, Self care, Self love, wise words 👏🏻, You matter

On the Days That Feel Heavy

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“If today feels heavy, carry it lightly. If it feels empty, fill it with the smallest comforts. A warm drink. An uplifting song. Soft clothes. A deep breath. You don’t have to fix today. You just have to move through it.”

-Vex King

Some days feel heavier than others—days when the world presses in a little tighter, when motivation is hard to find, or when everything just feels… off. In those moments, it’s easy to think we need to fix everything right away: our mood, our circumstances, ourselves. But maybe the gentler path is simply to carry the day lightly. This quotation reminds us that we don’t have to force solutions or breakthroughs; we just need to find our footing and keep going. A warm drink, a soft hoodie, a peaceful nap, a favorite song—these tiny acts of comfort can anchor us more than we realize.

Life isn’t always about monumental change or productivity. Sometimes it’s about being tender with ourselves when the weight gets too much. When the day feels empty, we can fill it with small, nourishing moments that ask nothing of us but presence. You don’t need to solve every problem today. You just need to move through it—breath by breath, step by step, with kindness in your hands and softness in your heart. That alone is enough. That alone is brave.

Even butterflies seek shelter when it rains—to protect their delicate wings from being torn by the storm. They don’t fight the weather; they rest and wait. In the same way, it’s okay to pause and protect your own softness. The rain doesn’t last forever—and there’s always a rainbow waiting on the other side.

What’s meant for you will find its way. What isn’t will quietly fall away. Trust the process, and keep moving.

2025, 2025, Tawakkul, Peace, Healing, Self Care, 90’s, ❄️, Hope, Love, No bad Vibes, wise words 👏🏻, You, You matter

– You Only Life Once –

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Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life — you didn’t settle for it. But remember… ten years isn’t guaranteed. Tomorrow isn’t promised. Life is short, and passing quickly.

So do what your heart wants. Follow it — fully, unapologetically. Say no to anything that doesn’t align with who you are or your life. No one else needs to understand it. It just needs to be real to you. You’re not here to merely exist — you’re here to live. And if you’re lucky enough to be here in ten years, make sure it’s a life that feels like your own.

There’s no such thing as perfect — not in people, not in choices, not in paths. Everyone has flaws, cracks, and contradictions. The beauty lies in deciding which imperfections you’re willing to live with — in yourself and in others. That’s what being human is. You won’t be perfect either, but to someone out there, you might just be the best thing they’ve ever known. So never talk down to yourself. Move like the world does revolve around you — and then choose your people accordingly. Choose the ones who get it. Who support you. Who see you.

And even on your fragile days — don’t let negativity in. The world/people can be cruel, but their bitterness isn’t yours to carry. Protect your peace, guard your worth, and never let someone else’s darkness dim your light.

This one’s for everyone born in the ’90s — before tech took over. We’ve officially hit the serious age. To those still choosing their path — keep going. And to those who followed the script and settled for what the world chose for you — may you find peace, purpose, and pieces of yourself along the way. ✨💛🥂

Cherish the time and people in your life—once they’re gone, you can’t get them back.

2025, Chasing your dreams, Dream big, 🇵🇰, Life Lesson, Live a little, Toxic Brown Culture, wise words 👏🏻, You, You matter

Chasing Perfection: Is the Ideal Life Just a Myth?

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In many South Asian communities, life often follows a traditional script. Expectations are clear, and deviation is discouraged. For women in particular, there’s an unspoken standard—live quietly, fulfill your roles, and don’t ask for too much. Over time, this has created a culture where many live on autopilot, checking boxes but rarely feeling fulfilled.

But what happens when someone dares to want more?

The idea of an “ideal life” is often dismissed as unrealistic. Society tells us perfection doesn’t exist, and chasing it will only lead to disappointment. Yet, for some, it’s not about perfection—it’s about living with purpose. It’s about waking up with hope rather than dread. It’s about refusing to accept a bare minimum existence as the default.

High standards are often misunderstood. They aren’t rooted in arrogance but in self-awareness. When someone has experienced being deeply valued—whether through family, friends, education, or personal insight—they develop a different emotional baseline. They begin to expect more than survival—they seek joy, peace, and meaning.

In cultures that glorify sacrifice, choosing self-fulfillment can be seen as rebellion. But maybe the real myth isn’t the ideal life—it’s the belief that we must all settle. The truth is, the ideal life looks different for everyone. It’s not about living flawlessly; it’s about living intentionally, on one’s own terms.

Chasing that life isn’t delusion. It’s courage.❤️

At the heart of it all, women deserve to choose themselves—boldly, unapologetically, and without guilt. Growth begins when they stop shrinking to fit into roles that were never made for them. Choosing yourself isn’t selfish; it’s the first step toward building a life that’s full, intentional, and truly your own.

This journey has been one of healing and self-discovery, and every word I’ve written reflects a piece of that growth. While I usually share lighthearted thoughts, recent blogs have been more personal—filled with honesty and heart. I hope whoever’s reading this remembers that they’re worth far more than what this society expects of them. Never settle for the bare minimum. Set your standards, honor your individuality, and pursue your dreams—unapologetically. Just because others choose a certain path doesn’t mean it’s yours to follow. We each live and dream differently—and that’s exactly how it should be ✨💛

2025, 90’s, 🇵🇰, Life Lesson, Self care, Self love, You, You matter

—— Last Time ——

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One day, you’ll do something for the last time.

The last time you hug a loved one without realizing it.

The last late-night drive with your best friend before life pulls you in different directions.

The last meal at your favorite spot before it closes.

The last time you’ll set foot in a city you’ll never be going back to.

The last time you laugh until you cry with people you won’t see again.

The last time you actually hear someone for who they truly are before life hits them with a serious crisis.

The last time you’ll be playing your favourite sport.

The last time you wear your school uniform because you’re done with it.

The last time when you’ll actually enjoy walking or playing in the rain.

The last time you let someone’s behaviour impact you because you’ll learn to stand up for yourself.

You won’t know it’s the last. It won’t feel special in the moment. It’ll feel like any other day. Until it isn’t. So be where your feet are. Look people in the eye. Say what you mean. Feel it fully. Because the ordinary moments? They’re only ordinary until they’re gone. We humans change. Our emotions and feelings towards people, places and things keep changing due to our experiences or the simple fact that we grow up. As the quote goes “You cannot step in the same river twice, for it’s not the same river and he’s not the same man.”

Time is ever changing. And you can only go ahead in life when you accept the fact that you literally have to make things happen or else you’ll run out of time. Accept what you want to and say no to what you know isn’t right for you. I miss the simplicity of childhood and the pre technology era. When you never cared about what you wore or what you did, all you did was do what made you happy in that moment. Getting your favourite chocolate or cookie left in the box so you could enjoy it. Everything turns so complicated when you grow up, you literally have access to everything, you can buy anything but that happiness won’t last and it won’t give you butterflies as it did when you were a kid. It was the little things which mattered. Life’s weird now we’re just a bunch of anxious adults with happening and happy pictures on social media whereas the true essence of happiness isn’t there anymore.

Appreciate what makes you happy at the moment before it’s too late✨