Iâm at a point in my life where I just cannot take any further stress about things. Either I try to sleep it off, or I overthink until, boom, my migraine gets triggered! And when I get too tired and exhausted, I just pray. Because honestly, there is something so peaceful about turning to Allah when your mind is overwhelmed and your heart feels heavy. When you actually pray, it heals you, calms your nerves, and gives you a sense of peace that is sometimes difficult to find elsewhere.
Over time, Iâve realised that not everything needs an immediate solution. Sometimes, we stress over things we cannot control, exhausting ourselves over situations that may never happen. I try to divert my mind and remind myself that worrying wonât change the outcome; it will only steal my peace. Sometimes, you just need to let go, take a break, and trust Allah with what you cannot control.
Lastly, surround yourself with people you can be your true self around, without any shields or filters. People you can vent to without fear of judgment, knowing theyâll understand, support you, and make you feel safe enough to be yourself đ¤
What are 5 everyday things that bring you happiness?
A good self care day
Nothing makes me happier than a full self care day. Hair treatments, a fresh blowdry, getting my nails done, a relaxing pedicure, and a massage just make me feel so refreshed, confident, and put together. I also love getting my hair colored twice a year, it feels like such a fun little transformation and makes me feel brand new. Itâs honestly the best reset ever.
A good shopping spree
Shopping is my happy place! Whether Iâm scrolling online or walking through the mall, I love it all. Sephora, Mango, Zara, Ulta⌠I could spend hours looking at makeup, clothes, and shoes. It just instantly lifts my mood.
Coffee with the right people
Coffee feels so much better when itâs with the right person. Sitting there, talking about everything and nothing, laughing, venting, and just being completely unfiltered is such a comforting feeling.
Driving
I absolutely love driving. Itâs just me, my music, and my thoughts. It feels so peaceful and freeing, like my own little escape where I can just be in the moment.
Quiet time to myself
As much as I love being around people, I really value my alone time. Just relaxing, unwinding, and enjoying a little peace makes me feel recharged and balanced again. Even sleeping peacefully without an alarm just makes it feel extra special.
We live in a time where scrolling through social media often feels like flipping through a magazine of edited perfection. Celebrities and influencers have access to makeup artists, fillers, Photoshop, and filtersâand yet, we compare ourselves to them in our most natural state. No wonder so many people feel insecure.
But hereâs the truth: you donât need fake lashes, fake nails, or endless beauty treatments to be worthy of love and confidence. You are beautiful as you are. That doesnât mean you canât enjoy makeup, skincare, or even high-maintenance procedures if they make you feel goodâit just means your value doesnât depend on them.
Everyone has their own version of beauty. What makes you stand out isnât how much you look like an influencer, but how much you look like yourself. When you stop chasing the illusion of perfection, youâll find that your natural features, your quirks, and even the things you thought were âflawsâ are what make you unique.
So take a break from comparing. Put the phone down for a while. Look in the mirror without filters, and remind yourself: this is meâand I am enough.
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?
Some of the most profound lessons Iâve carried in life werenât from books or lecturesâthey were from conversations with my father. His words were simple, but theyâve stayed with me, guiding me through moments of confusion, growth, and change.
Do good and forget about it.
Goodness is not a transactionâitâs a reflection of who you are. When you do something kind, donât wait for recognition or repayment. Life has its own way of returning what you give, sometimes in ways youâd never expect. The same applies to ill intentions: those who plot harm often find themselves ensnared by their own traps. Life is circular; what goes around always comes around.
Arrogance is for the foolish.
Every day is an opportunity to learn. Mistakes, missteps, and even heartbreaks are teachers if youâre willing to listen. To walk through life thinking you know it all is to close yourself off from growth. True strength lies in humility and the ability to adapt with each new lesson.
Be wise with your resources.
Money comes and goes, but discipline in spending shapes your freedom. Confidence, however, is a different kind of wealth. When you walk into a room, know that no one else can be you. That quiet certainty is far more valuable than arroganceâitâs self-respect without the need for comparison.
Guard your circle.
Loneliness is better than being surrounded by serpents. Not everyone who smiles at you wishes you well. A friend to all is often a friend to none. The ones who truly matter are selective with their trust and protective of their space. Sometimes, solitude is not isolationâitâs preservation.
In all these lessons lies a single thread: life is both a teacher and a mirror. What you give, you receive. What you learn, you become. And what you protect, protects you in return.
âTo know yourself is a lifetimeâs work; to pretend you know others is arrogance.â
â But if you knew, you might not be able to see it again tomorrow, everything would suddenly become special and precious, wouldnât it?â
â Kafka on the Shore, Haruki Murakami
We move through life assuming continuityâbelieving the places we love will stay, the people we cherish will remain, and the moments we live will repeat themselves. But what if they donât?
This quote from Kafka on the Shore is a quiet reminder of impermanence. It urges us to see the beauty in the ordinary, to treat today not as another page in a never-ending book, but as a fragile, irreplaceable chapter.
That hallway in your childhood home where the light always falls a certain way. The friend you always assume youâll see next weekend. The elder who would guide you with their wisdom wonât be sitting at the table again as they did. The lazy Sunday morning filled with silence and coffee. They might not be there tomorrow. Not in the same way.
We often chase big dreams and future plans, but perhaps the real magic lies in the small things we take for granted. Noticing them. Being present for them. Valuing themânot because they are rare, but because they are fleeting.
So next time youâre with someone you love, or in a moment that feels simple and still, pause. Soak it in. Because knowing it might not come again doesnât make it sadâit makes it sacred.
When a mother has a baby girl, people sometimes respond with comments like, âDonât worry, maybe youâll have a boy next time,â as if having a daughter is somehow disappointing. These remarks often reflect outdated beliefs or personal biases, rather than any real issue. The truth is, daughters are just as valuable and bring their own unique joy to a family. The connection between daughters and their parentsâespecially with their fathersâcan be incredibly strong and meaningful. Every child is a gift, regardless of gender.
Let me be clear â I donât associate myself with feminist ideology. But I also believe that expecting women to suffer in silence, to sacrifice endlessly without emotional support or understanding, is something I canât accept.
We live in a time where women still feel pressured to marry based on societal expectations, not emotional connection. Many go through heartbreak, yet are expected to carry on â often having child after child in homes where love and care may be missing. Itâs heartbreaking, and itâs real.
Our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) married Bibi Khadija (RA), a widow who proposed to him. Islam honored women and gave them the right to choose. But somewhere along the way, culture and customs overshadowed that message. Today, a woman taking a step forward for herself is often misunderstood or unfairly judged.
This isnât about blaming anyone. Itâs about rethinking what weâve normalized.
Women deserve respect, choice, and emotional safety â just like men do. We need to build a society where both are treated with fairness and dignity. Itâs not about one being above the other â itâs about walking side by side.
I will always be grateful to my angel of a father. He wasnât a typical Baloch father â he gave me freedom, respect, and unwavering admiration. He loved me with a kindness and understanding that shaped who I am. Since his passing, Iâve felt permanently deprived of that kind of love and comfort. He was my safe place, my constant â the one I could turn to no matter how hard life got. My friend, my strength, my father â my everything.
I truly wish more fathers could be like him â trusting, loving, and always holding a soft spot for their daughters, no matter what.
âIf today feels heavy, carry it lightly. If it feels empty, fill it with the smallest comforts. A warm drink. An uplifting song. Soft clothes. A deep breath. You donât have to fix today. You just have to move through it.â
-Vex King
Some days feel heavier than othersâdays when the world presses in a little tighter, when motivation is hard to find, or when everything just feels⌠off. In those moments, itâs easy to think we need to fix everything right away: our mood, our circumstances, ourselves. But maybe the gentler path is simply to carry the day lightly. This quotation reminds us that we donât have to force solutions or breakthroughs; we just need to find our footing and keep going. A warm drink, a soft hoodie, a peaceful nap, a favorite songâthese tiny acts of comfort can anchor us more than we realize.
Life isnât always about monumental change or productivity. Sometimes itâs about being tender with ourselves when the weight gets too much. When the day feels empty, we can fill it with small, nourishing moments that ask nothing of us but presence. You donât need to solve every problem today. You just need to move through itâbreath by breath, step by step, with kindness in your hands and softness in your heart. That alone is enough. That alone is brave.
Even butterflies seek shelter when it rainsâto protect their delicate wings from being torn by the storm. They donât fight the weather; they rest and wait. In the same way, itâs okay to pause and protect your own softness. The rain doesnât last foreverâand thereâs always a rainbow waiting on the other side.
Whatâs meant for you will find its way. What isnât will quietly fall away. Trust the process, and keep moving.
Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life â you didnât settle for it. But remember⌠ten years isnât guaranteed. Tomorrow isnât promised. Life is short, and passing quickly.
So do what your heart wants. Follow it â fully, unapologetically. Say no to anything that doesnât align with who you are or your life. No one else needs to understand it. It just needs to be real to you. Youâre not here to merely exist â youâre here to live. And if youâre lucky enough to be here in ten years, make sure itâs a life that feels like your own.
Thereâs no such thing as perfect â not in people, not in choices, not in paths. Everyone has flaws, cracks, and contradictions. The beauty lies in deciding which imperfections youâre willing to live with â in yourself and in others. Thatâs what being human is. You wonât be perfect either, but to someone out there, you might just be the best thing theyâve ever known. So never talk down to yourself. Move like the world does revolve around you â and then choose your people accordingly. Choose the ones who get it. Who support you. Who see you.
And even on your fragile days â donât let negativity in. The world/people can be cruel, but their bitterness isnât yours to carry. Protect your peace, guard your worth, and never let someone elseâs darkness dim your light.
This oneâs for everyone born in the â90s â before tech took over. Weâve officially hit the serious age. To those still choosing their path â keep going. And to those who followed the script and settled for what the world chose for you â may you find peace, purpose, and pieces of yourself along the way. â¨đđĽ
Cherish the time and people in your lifeâonce theyâre gone, you canât get them back.
In many South Asian communities, life often follows a traditional script. Expectations are clear, and deviation is discouraged. For women in particular, thereâs an unspoken standardâlive quietly, fulfill your roles, and donât ask for too much. Over time, this has created a culture where many live on autopilot, checking boxes but rarely feeling fulfilled.
But what happens when someone dares to want more?
The idea of an âideal lifeâ is often dismissed as unrealistic. Society tells us perfection doesnât exist, and chasing it will only lead to disappointment. Yet, for some, itâs not about perfectionâitâs about living with purpose. Itâs about waking up with hope rather than dread. Itâs about refusing to accept a bare minimum existence as the default.
High standards are often misunderstood. They arenât rooted in arrogance but in self-awareness. When someone has experienced being deeply valuedâwhether through family, friends, education, or personal insightâthey develop a different emotional baseline. They begin to expect more than survivalâthey seek joy, peace, and meaning.
In cultures that glorify sacrifice, choosing self-fulfillment can be seen as rebellion. But maybe the real myth isnât the ideal lifeâitâs the belief that we must all settle. The truth is, the ideal life looks different for everyone. Itâs not about living flawlessly; itâs about living intentionally, on oneâs own terms.
Chasing that life isnât delusion. Itâs courage.â¤ď¸
At the heart of it all, women deserve to choose themselvesâboldly, unapologetically, and without guilt. Growth begins when they stop shrinking to fit into roles that were never made for them. Choosing yourself isnât selfish; itâs the first step toward building a life thatâs full, intentional, and truly your own.
This journey has been one of healing and self-discovery, and every word Iâve written reflects a piece of that growth. While I usually share lighthearted thoughts, recent blogs have been more personalâfilled with honesty and heart. I hope whoeverâs reading this remembers that theyâre worth far more than what this society expects of them. Never settle for the bare minimum. Set your standards, honor your individuality, and pursue your dreamsâunapologetically. Just because others choose a certain path doesnât mean itâs yours to follow. We each live and dream differentlyâand thatâs exactly how it should be â¨đ
The last time you hug a loved one without realizing it.
The last late-night drive with your best friend before life pulls you in different directions.
The last meal at your favorite spot before it closes.
The last time youâll set foot in a city youâll never be going back to.
The last time you laugh until you cry with people you won’t see again.
The last time you actually hear someone for who they truly are before life hits them with a serious crisis.
The last time youâll be playing your favourite sport.
The last time you wear your school uniform because youâre done with it.
The last time when youâll actually enjoy walking or playing in the rain.
The last time you let someoneâs behaviour impact you because youâll learn to stand up for yourself.
You won’t know it’s the last. It won’t feel special in the moment. It’ll feel like any other day. Until it isn’t. So be where your feet are. Look people in the eye. Say what you mean. Feel it fully. Because the ordinary moments? They’re only ordinary until they’re gone. We humans change. Our emotions and feelings towards people, places and things keep changing due to our experiences or the simple fact that we grow up. As the quote goes âYou cannot step in the same river twice, for itâs not the same river and heâs not the same man.â
Time is ever changing. And you can only go ahead in life when you accept the fact that you literally have to make things happen or else youâll run out of time. Accept what you want to and say no to what you know isnât right for you. I miss the simplicity of childhood and the pre technology era. When you never cared about what you wore or what you did, all you did was do what made you happy in that moment. Getting your favourite chocolate or cookie left in the box so you could enjoy it. Everything turns so complicated when you grow up, you literally have access to everything, you can buy anything but that happiness wonât last and it wonât give you butterflies as it did when you were a kid. It was the little things which mattered. Lifeâs weird now weâre just a bunch of anxious adults with happening and happy pictures on social media whereas the true essence of happiness isnât there anymore.
Appreciate what makes you happy at the moment before itâs too lateâ¨
