It’s a question that sounds simple, but the answers usually sit quietly in the corners of our lives, waiting for us to notice.
For me, the first answer is this: taking everything to heart. One harsh tone, one careless comment, one moment of rudeness—and suddenly there’s a storm inside me. My chest tightens, my thoughts spiral, and I replay the moment again and again like I’m responsible for everyone else’s cruelty.
But I’m learning something new, something difficult: I don’t have to absorb everything. Someone recently told me that if I keep internalising every hurtful thing, I’ll end up trapped in a loop of my own pain. And they were right. Letting people and situations be what they are is not weakness—it’s wisdom. This world tests us in quiet ways, and sometimes the bravest thing we can do is step back, breathe, and move on.
Maybe it hits harder because the one person who truly cared for my heart—the one who saw me, understood me, prioritised me—is no longer here. And now my sensitivity feels louder, like there’s no buffer between me and the world.
The second thing I could do less of?
Shopping my feelings away. One bad day and suddenly my cart looks like I’m stocking an entire vanity—clothes, makeup, skincare, all of it. Retail therapy feels good in the moment—comforting, distracting, almost like a friend. But eventually the packages arrive and half the things end up barely used, if at all. A temporary fix becomes permanent clutter.
Still, what can I say? I’m just a girl trying to soothe a sensitive soul the only way she knows how.
So yes, maybe I’m thin-skinned. Maybe I feel too much.
But recognising what I could do less of is the first step toward becoming someone stronger—not harder, just more at peace.
What part of your routine do you always try to skip if you can?
If there’s one part of my daily routine I wish I could skip, it’s the time I start overthinking. It usually begins in the quiet moments—when the world slows down but my thoughts speed up. I replay things in my head, analyze every detail, and end up feeling more drained than before.
Overthinking doesn’t solve problems—it creates them. It feeds anxiety, turning small worries into heavy thoughts that feel impossible to escape. The mind tries to find answers, but instead, it traps itself in endless questions. It’s exhausting, and most of the time, nothing changes except how anxious I feel.
Lately, I’ve realized that sometimes, ignorance truly is bliss. Not every thought needs attention, and not every situation needs to be figured out. Letting go, even just a little, brings a kind of peace that overthinking never can.
And the truth is—no one overthinks on purpose. It’s something that happens naturally. Our minds are wired differently, and some people simply feel and think more deeply. Overthinkers often care too much, not too little. What they truly need is understanding, not judgment. With the right people who get them, even an overactive mind can find calm.
I love experimenting with my hair—whether it’s new colors or different cuts. Changing it up every year feels like therapy for me. Sure, it can get a little pricey, but it’s always worth it if you go to a good colorist who really knows what they’re doing. Recently, I went for golden tones, and I’m absolutely loving the look!
I enjoy taking care of myself—hair care, skin care, makeup, you name it. I like investing in products that make me feel good. For example, I have four different shampoos and pick one depending on the scent or how I want my hair to feel that day. I also keep three hair masks and several serums because splurging on these things makes me happy. Honestly, as women, we need that extra aftercare—especially after bleaching or coloring our hair.
This one feels super luxurious. It’s creamy, nourishing, and really helps keep my color looking fresh and shiny. Plus, it smells like a high-end salon—soft and a little floral.
Lightweight but does the job so well! It protects the color and gives my hair that glossy look. The scent is fruity and fresh, the scent instantly brightens my mood.
A total game-changer after coloring. It gets rid of all the build-up from metals in water that can make hair dull. My hair feels cleaner and stronger with this one. The scent is clean, a bit citrusy, and refreshing.
OGX Argan Oil of Morocco Shampoo
This one is all about smoothing and shine. It leaves my hair soft and glossy, and the scent is warm, nutty, and a little tropical—honestly so addictive. Since it has sulfates, though, it can feel a bit more drying compared to the others, so I usually follow up with a good conditioner or mask.
Hair Masks
K18 Leave-In Molecular Repair Mask
This one’s more of a treatment than a mask—it works on a deeper level to repair damage from coloring or heat. My hair always feels stronger and healthier after using it. The scent is clean and minimal, nothing heavy, which I like since it doesn’t clash with other products. Definitely one of my top favorites—it never fails me. I feel hair lengths get healthier and my grows so well whenever I use this mask.
Shiseido Fino Hair Mask
Such an affordable gem! It makes my hair super soft, smooth, and easy to manage. The scent is sweet and floral, very “Japanese beauty aisle.” I usually leave it on for a good amount of time, and the results are even better—my hair feels silky and light.
My go-to when my hair feels fragile or over-processed. It nourishes deeply, strengthens strands, and smells just like a high-end salon—fresh, slightly floral, and elegant. I also leave this one on longer than suggested, and it makes a huge difference in how healthy my hair feels.
Hair Serum
Label.m Age-Defying Hair Serum
A lightweight serum that targets signs of aging in hair, like thinning or dullness. It makes strands feel smoother, adds shine, and gives that “healthy bounce” back. The scent is light and fresh, and just grabs attention of anyone who blowdries my hair.
Affordable but really effective. It smooths down frizz and adds a silky finish without weighing hair down. The scent is subtle, a soft sweet-floral, which pairs well with the Fino mask. I usually use this when I don’t really have to style my hair and just air dry them.
K18 Molecular Repair Hair Oil
This is more than just a shine oil—it actually helps repair damage on a deeper level, just like the K18 mask. Super lightweight, non-greasy, and perfect for both styling and long-term strengthening. The scent is clean and understated. I prefer using this in nighttime hair care routine, add in a few drops on my stands before brushing them.
The Hair Care Basic
I also like to keep it simple sometimes with a good oil massage. I use Munawar Haq Coconut Hair Oil, which is lightweight, transparent, and doesn’t have that strong smell some coconut oils do. The best part is that it doesn’t affect my hair color, so I can still enjoy the benefits of oiling without worrying about fading. It leaves my hair soft, nourished, and just overall healthier. I would add 10-15 drops of rosemary essential hair oil to 5-6 tablespoons of my coconut oil.
I have been using kerastase products since over 10 years now. And people back then didn’t even know this brand existed and only one salon in my city had signed up with kerastase for their treatments and selling their products. It’s become more common now, still I stock up some products which are not available here from Dubai or US.
Disclaimer: There are a lot of pages in Pakistan selling fake k18 products at a lesser price (AVOID THEM AT ALL COSTS). Safer option is always getting it yourself or asking someone you buy it from US preferably. US and UK prices have a huge difference when it comes to K18 market. Thank me later.
*When it comes to my cut and color, I’m super particular. There are only three people in my city I trust to cut and color my hair, and about five who can style it exactly the way I like. I always go back to them—I just can’t let someone new touch my hair. Very few people truly understand what I like and how I want my hair to look, so once I find the right ones, I stick with them. It’s that final touch that ties everything together and makes me feel completely myself*
We live in a time where scrolling through social media often feels like flipping through a magazine of edited perfection. Celebrities and influencers have access to makeup artists, fillers, Photoshop, and filters—and yet, we compare ourselves to them in our most natural state. No wonder so many people feel insecure.
But here’s the truth: you don’t need fake lashes, fake nails, or endless beauty treatments to be worthy of love and confidence. You are beautiful as you are. That doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy makeup, skincare, or even high-maintenance procedures if they make you feel good—it just means your value doesn’t depend on them.
Everyone has their own version of beauty. What makes you stand out isn’t how much you look like an influencer, but how much you look like yourself. When you stop chasing the illusion of perfection, you’ll find that your natural features, your quirks, and even the things you thought were “flaws” are what make you unique.
So take a break from comparing. Put the phone down for a while. Look in the mirror without filters, and remind yourself: this is me—and I am enough.
“If today feels heavy, carry it lightly. If it feels empty, fill it with the smallest comforts. A warm drink. An uplifting song. Soft clothes. A deep breath. You don’t have to fix today. You just have to move through it.”
-Vex King
Some days feel heavier than others—days when the world presses in a little tighter, when motivation is hard to find, or when everything just feels… off. In those moments, it’s easy to think we need to fix everything right away: our mood, our circumstances, ourselves. But maybe the gentler path is simply to carry the day lightly. This quotation reminds us that we don’t have to force solutions or breakthroughs; we just need to find our footing and keep going. A warm drink, a soft hoodie, a peaceful nap, a favorite song—these tiny acts of comfort can anchor us more than we realize.
Life isn’t always about monumental change or productivity. Sometimes it’s about being tender with ourselves when the weight gets too much. When the day feels empty, we can fill it with small, nourishing moments that ask nothing of us but presence. You don’t need to solve every problem today. You just need to move through it—breath by breath, step by step, with kindness in your hands and softness in your heart. That alone is enough. That alone is brave.
Even butterflies seek shelter when it rains—to protect their delicate wings from being torn by the storm. They don’t fight the weather; they rest and wait. In the same way, it’s okay to pause and protect your own softness. The rain doesn’t last forever—and there’s always a rainbow waiting on the other side.
What’s meant for you will find its way. What isn’t will quietly fall away. Trust the process, and keep moving.
In many South Asian communities, life often follows a traditional script. Expectations are clear, and deviation is discouraged. For women in particular, there’s an unspoken standard—live quietly, fulfill your roles, and don’t ask for too much. Over time, this has created a culture where many live on autopilot, checking boxes but rarely feeling fulfilled.
But what happens when someone dares to want more?
The idea of an “ideal life” is often dismissed as unrealistic. Society tells us perfection doesn’t exist, and chasing it will only lead to disappointment. Yet, for some, it’s not about perfection—it’s about living with purpose. It’s about waking up with hope rather than dread. It’s about refusing to accept a bare minimum existence as the default.
High standards are often misunderstood. They aren’t rooted in arrogance but in self-awareness. When someone has experienced being deeply valued—whether through family, friends, education, or personal insight—they develop a different emotional baseline. They begin to expect more than survival—they seek joy, peace, and meaning.
In cultures that glorify sacrifice, choosing self-fulfillment can be seen as rebellion. But maybe the real myth isn’t the ideal life—it’s the belief that we must all settle. The truth is, the ideal life looks different for everyone. It’s not about living flawlessly; it’s about living intentionally, on one’s own terms.
Chasing that life isn’t delusion. It’s courage.❤️
At the heart of it all, women deserve to choose themselves—boldly, unapologetically, and without guilt. Growth begins when they stop shrinking to fit into roles that were never made for them. Choosing yourself isn’t selfish; it’s the first step toward building a life that’s full, intentional, and truly your own.
This journey has been one of healing and self-discovery, and every word I’ve written reflects a piece of that growth. While I usually share lighthearted thoughts, recent blogs have been more personal—filled with honesty and heart. I hope whoever’s reading this remembers that they’re worth far more than what this society expects of them. Never settle for the bare minimum. Set your standards, honor your individuality, and pursue your dreams—unapologetically. Just because others choose a certain path doesn’t mean it’s yours to follow. We each live and dream differently—and that’s exactly how it should be ✨💛
You are not responsible for other people’s happiness. Let them be unhappy.
You are not responsible for making people understand your choices. Let them be confused.
You are not responsible for managing someone else’s emotions. Let them feel how they feel.
You are not responsible for proving your worth to people who don’t see it. Let them underestimate you.
You are not responsible for meeting everyone’s expectations. Let them be disappointed.
You are not responsible for rescuing people from their problems. Let them learn from life.
You are not responsible for managing everyone and everything around you. Let them be.
Disclaimer:Stop wasting your time and energy on things you can’t control (like other people’s moods, opinions and actions) and focus on one thing you can control: YOU
