What are 5 everyday things that bring you happiness?
A good self care day
Nothing makes me happier than a full self care day. Hair treatments, a fresh blowdry, getting my nails done, a relaxing pedicure, and a massage just make me feel so refreshed, confident, and put together. I also love getting my hair colored twice a year, it feels like such a fun little transformation and makes me feel brand new. Itâs honestly the best reset ever.
A good shopping spree
Shopping is my happy place! Whether Iâm scrolling online or walking through the mall, I love it all. Sephora, Mango, Zara, Ulta⊠I could spend hours looking at makeup, clothes, and shoes. It just instantly lifts my mood.
Coffee with the right people
Coffee feels so much better when itâs with the right person. Sitting there, talking about everything and nothing, laughing, venting, and just being completely unfiltered is such a comforting feeling.
Driving
I absolutely love driving. Itâs just me, my music, and my thoughts. It feels so peaceful and freeing, like my own little escape where I can just be in the moment.
Quiet time to myself
As much as I love being around people, I really value my alone time. Just relaxing, unwinding, and enjoying a little peace makes me feel recharged and balanced again. Even sleeping peacefully without an alarm just makes it feel extra special.
Welcome to my cozy corner of the internetâwhere shopping is both a passion and a form of therapy, and where dressing well feels like a daily dose of joy. Every year I tell myself I donât need much for winter, especially since last seasonâs outfits are still practically new (yes, tags and all!). But then autumn rolls in, the first cool breeze hits, and suddenly boxy fit tees, wide-leg thick pants, flowy karandi sets, and crisp kurtas start calling my name. And just like that⊠15â20 new pieces somehow end up in my wardrobe before winter even begins.
If youâre a girl or woman who loves beautiful cuts, comfy silhouettes, and the effortless charm of Pakistani winter fashion, this space is for you. From cozy everyday fits to chic eastern classics, consider this your warm invitation into everything stylish, soft, and feel-good this season.
Zaib
Zaibâs stitched karandi pieces are all about soft winter comfort with a clean, elegant look. The fabric is warm, slightly textured, and flows nicely without feeling heavy. Their designs are minimal yet refinedâthink subtle thread embroidery on the neckline or sleeves, soft winter prints, and muted seasonal colors. The cuts are relaxed and flattering, usually straight long kurtas paired with wide-leg or straight trousers that create an effortless, put-together silhouette. Necklines are simple and feminine, like V-necks, round-with-slit, or band collars. This season, Zaib truly stole the spotlight for me; their stitched and unstitched karandi sets won my heart instantly, and I ended up bagging all four outfits. They wonât be restocking these designs, so keep an eye out if something catches your attention. These are the kind of outfits you can style effortlessly and carry with complete easeâcozy, classy, and perfect for winter.
Jugnu by Hussain Rehar
Hussain Reharâs Jugnu Khaddar collection has launched, and it truly lives up to the hype. The released colorsâred, blue, and greenâset a stunning tone for the entire drop. The red is a rich, festive winter shade with bold yet elegant print detailing, perfect for evening wear. The blue is cool and sophisticated, giving a modern, clean look ideal for daytime winter outfits or polished casual styling. The green leans earthy and warm, with prints that highlight its depth without overwhelming itâbeautiful for everyday winter wear. These three shades alone reflect Reharâs signature blend of strong palettes and refined design, making Jugnu an instant winter favourite.
Zara Shahjahan
Zara Shahjahanâs previous karandi launches included elegant two-piece and three-piece sets. The two-pieces paired textured shirts with straight trousers in subtle prints and warm winter tones, perfect for everyday wear. The three-pieces added matching shawls with delicate embroidery or florals, creating a complete, graceful winter look. Both offered relaxed, flattering cuts and timeless Zara Shahjahan charm.
Sapphire
Sapphireâs Winter Unstitched Volume 1 is a treat for all ages, with color combinations that are rich yet versatileâthink deep maroons, muted blues, earthy neutrals, and soft pastels. The collection features abstract prints that are modern and artistic, making them perfect for both young and mature women. The designs are timeless and wearable, allowing you to style them in multiple ways while keeping the look elegant and effortless for everyday winter wear.
I choose Sapphire unstitched winter pieces for my everyday comfort, especially when Iâm in my village and my usual pajamas are back in Lahore. I always get my outfits stitched in a loose fit because tight or fitted clothes just feel weird to me. My go-to is wide-leg pants with a boxy teeâeffortless, cozy, and exactly how I like to move and live at home. And since most of Sapphireâs pieces are printed and donât need dry cleaning, theyâre perfect for my village trips and daily wear without extra hassle.
Also, one thing Iâve learned is that not everything in our cupboards is actually needed. We should donate our clothes to places where we know people will truly use them. Itâs time to stop hoarding and start making spaceâfor ourselves and for someone else who might need those pieces more than we do.
We live in a time where scrolling through social media often feels like flipping through a magazine of edited perfection. Celebrities and influencers have access to makeup artists, fillers, Photoshop, and filtersâand yet, we compare ourselves to them in our most natural state. No wonder so many people feel insecure.
But hereâs the truth: you donât need fake lashes, fake nails, or endless beauty treatments to be worthy of love and confidence. You are beautiful as you are. That doesnât mean you canât enjoy makeup, skincare, or even high-maintenance procedures if they make you feel goodâit just means your value doesnât depend on them.
Everyone has their own version of beauty. What makes you stand out isnât how much you look like an influencer, but how much you look like yourself. When you stop chasing the illusion of perfection, youâll find that your natural features, your quirks, and even the things you thought were âflawsâ are what make you unique.
So take a break from comparing. Put the phone down for a while. Look in the mirror without filters, and remind yourself: this is meâand I am enough.
â But if you knew, you might not be able to see it again tomorrow, everything would suddenly become special and precious, wouldnât it?â
â Kafka on the Shore, Haruki Murakami
We move through life assuming continuityâbelieving the places we love will stay, the people we cherish will remain, and the moments we live will repeat themselves. But what if they donât?
This quote from Kafka on the Shore is a quiet reminder of impermanence. It urges us to see the beauty in the ordinary, to treat today not as another page in a never-ending book, but as a fragile, irreplaceable chapter.
That hallway in your childhood home where the light always falls a certain way. The friend you always assume youâll see next weekend. The elder who would guide you with their wisdom wonât be sitting at the table again as they did. The lazy Sunday morning filled with silence and coffee. They might not be there tomorrow. Not in the same way.
We often chase big dreams and future plans, but perhaps the real magic lies in the small things we take for granted. Noticing them. Being present for them. Valuing themânot because they are rare, but because they are fleeting.
So next time youâre with someone you love, or in a moment that feels simple and still, pause. Soak it in. Because knowing it might not come again doesnât make it sadâit makes it sacred.
Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life â you didnât settle for it. But remember⊠ten years isnât guaranteed. Tomorrow isnât promised. Life is short, and passing quickly.
So do what your heart wants. Follow it â fully, unapologetically. Say no to anything that doesnât align with who you are or your life. No one else needs to understand it. It just needs to be real to you. Youâre not here to merely exist â youâre here to live. And if youâre lucky enough to be here in ten years, make sure itâs a life that feels like your own.
Thereâs no such thing as perfect â not in people, not in choices, not in paths. Everyone has flaws, cracks, and contradictions. The beauty lies in deciding which imperfections youâre willing to live with â in yourself and in others. Thatâs what being human is. You wonât be perfect either, but to someone out there, you might just be the best thing theyâve ever known. So never talk down to yourself. Move like the world does revolve around you â and then choose your people accordingly. Choose the ones who get it. Who support you. Who see you.
And even on your fragile days â donât let negativity in. The world/people can be cruel, but their bitterness isnât yours to carry. Protect your peace, guard your worth, and never let someone elseâs darkness dim your light.
This oneâs for everyone born in the â90s â before tech took over. Weâve officially hit the serious age. To those still choosing their path â keep going. And to those who followed the script and settled for what the world chose for you â may you find peace, purpose, and pieces of yourself along the way. âšđđ„
Cherish the time and people in your lifeâonce theyâre gone, you canât get them back.
In many South Asian communities, life often follows a traditional script. Expectations are clear, and deviation is discouraged. For women in particular, thereâs an unspoken standardâlive quietly, fulfill your roles, and donât ask for too much. Over time, this has created a culture where many live on autopilot, checking boxes but rarely feeling fulfilled.
But what happens when someone dares to want more?
The idea of an âideal lifeâ is often dismissed as unrealistic. Society tells us perfection doesnât exist, and chasing it will only lead to disappointment. Yet, for some, itâs not about perfectionâitâs about living with purpose. Itâs about waking up with hope rather than dread. Itâs about refusing to accept a bare minimum existence as the default.
High standards are often misunderstood. They arenât rooted in arrogance but in self-awareness. When someone has experienced being deeply valuedâwhether through family, friends, education, or personal insightâthey develop a different emotional baseline. They begin to expect more than survivalâthey seek joy, peace, and meaning.
In cultures that glorify sacrifice, choosing self-fulfillment can be seen as rebellion. But maybe the real myth isnât the ideal lifeâitâs the belief that we must all settle. The truth is, the ideal life looks different for everyone. Itâs not about living flawlessly; itâs about living intentionally, on oneâs own terms.
Chasing that life isnât delusion. Itâs courage.â€ïž
At the heart of it all, women deserve to choose themselvesâboldly, unapologetically, and without guilt. Growth begins when they stop shrinking to fit into roles that were never made for them. Choosing yourself isnât selfish; itâs the first step toward building a life thatâs full, intentional, and truly your own.
This journey has been one of healing and self-discovery, and every word Iâve written reflects a piece of that growth. While I usually share lighthearted thoughts, recent blogs have been more personalâfilled with honesty and heart. I hope whoeverâs reading this remembers that theyâre worth far more than what this society expects of them. Never settle for the bare minimum. Set your standards, honor your individuality, and pursue your dreamsâunapologetically. Just because others choose a certain path doesnât mean itâs yours to follow. We each live and dream differentlyâand thatâs exactly how it should be âšđ
The last time you hug a loved one without realizing it.
The last late-night drive with your best friend before life pulls you in different directions.
The last meal at your favorite spot before it closes.
The last time youâll set foot in a city youâll never be going back to.
The last time you laugh until you cry with people you won’t see again.
The last time you actually hear someone for who they truly are before life hits them with a serious crisis.
The last time youâll be playing your favourite sport.
The last time you wear your school uniform because youâre done with it.
The last time when youâll actually enjoy walking or playing in the rain.
The last time you let someoneâs behaviour impact you because youâll learn to stand up for yourself.
You won’t know it’s the last. It won’t feel special in the moment. It’ll feel like any other day. Until it isn’t. So be where your feet are. Look people in the eye. Say what you mean. Feel it fully. Because the ordinary moments? They’re only ordinary until they’re gone. We humans change. Our emotions and feelings towards people, places and things keep changing due to our experiences or the simple fact that we grow up. As the quote goes âYou cannot step in the same river twice, for itâs not the same river and heâs not the same man.â
Time is ever changing. And you can only go ahead in life when you accept the fact that you literally have to make things happen or else youâll run out of time. Accept what you want to and say no to what you know isnât right for you. I miss the simplicity of childhood and the pre technology era. When you never cared about what you wore or what you did, all you did was do what made you happy in that moment. Getting your favourite chocolate or cookie left in the box so you could enjoy it. Everything turns so complicated when you grow up, you literally have access to everything, you can buy anything but that happiness wonât last and it wonât give you butterflies as it did when you were a kid. It was the little things which mattered. Lifeâs weird now weâre just a bunch of anxious adults with happening and happy pictures on social media whereas the true essence of happiness isnât there anymore.
Appreciate what makes you happy at the moment before itâs too lateâš
You are not responsible for other peopleâs happiness. Let them be unhappy.
You are not responsible for making people understand your choices. Let them be confused.
You are not responsible for managing someone elseâs emotions. Let them feel how they feel.
You are not responsible for proving your worth to people who donât see it. Let them underestimate you.
You are not responsible for meeting everyoneâs expectations. Let them be disappointed.
You are not responsible for rescuing people from their problems. Let them learn from life.
You are not responsible for managing everyone and everything around you. Let them be.
Disclaimer:Stop wasting your time and energy on things you canât control (like other peopleâs moods, opinions and actions) and focus on one thing you can control: YOU
