What’s the best advice you’d give to someone younger than you?
Spend more time with the people you love, especially your grandparents and parents. You never know how much time you have left to make memories with them. Don’t take the people you love or the good days for granted. One day, you’ll find yourself searching for that familiar voice, that laugh, and the advice that came from years of experience, and it won’t be there anymore.
And lastly life is too short to leave important words unsaid.
What aspects of your cultural heritage are you most proud of or interested in?
What stands out in my cultural heritage is the craftsmanship of Balochi clothing and jewellery. The loose-fitted kurtas, decorated with silk thread embroidery and mirror work, display a level of artistry that is both unique and timeless. Each tribe has its own distinctive embroidery and jewellery style, which is what makes Baloch culture so diverse and recognizable.
Personally, I am most drawn to the jewellery pieces from the Mazari and Bugti families. Their designs have a richness and individuality that set them apart, and I feel fortunate to have inherited pieces from both through my family. From the elaborate gold headpieces to finely crafted gold clips, from heavy statement necklaces to delicate chains in different designs, and from handmade cuffs to intricate bracelets, these ornaments showcase the versatility and creativity of Baloch craftsmanship.
The inherited antique jewellery carries an irreplaceable value. The kundan work, the ruby and emerald detailing set into pure gold, and the remarkable neatness of every design reflect a level of mastery that today’s jewellers cannot replicate. Each piece was made to last for generations, and the longevity of that workmanship is something modern techniques often fail to achieve. People may try to reproduce these styles, but the originals remain unmatched in both precision and beauty.
Balochi jewellery as a whole has its own distinction. Bold and heavy, it reflects a culture that values strength and status. Clothes and jewellery together create a striking identity, instantly rooted in tradition yet varied across regions and tribes.
Yet, while these traditions hold value, it is clear that culturally and mentally there is still much that needs to change. In the end, heritage should not only be about preserving beauty but also about progressing in ways that make the culture stronger and more inclusive for the future.
“ But if you knew, you might not be able to see it again tomorrow, everything would suddenly become special and precious, wouldn’t it?”
— Kafka on the Shore, Haruki Murakami
We move through life assuming continuity—believing the places we love will stay, the people we cherish will remain, and the moments we live will repeat themselves. But what if they don’t?
This quote from Kafka on the Shore is a quiet reminder of impermanence. It urges us to see the beauty in the ordinary, to treat today not as another page in a never-ending book, but as a fragile, irreplaceable chapter.
That hallway in your childhood home where the light always falls a certain way. The friend you always assume you’ll see next weekend. The elder who would guide you with their wisdom won’t be sitting at the table again as they did. The lazy Sunday morning filled with silence and coffee. They might not be there tomorrow. Not in the same way.
We often chase big dreams and future plans, but perhaps the real magic lies in the small things we take for granted. Noticing them. Being present for them. Valuing them—not because they are rare, but because they are fleeting.
So next time you’re with someone you love, or in a moment that feels simple and still, pause. Soak it in. Because knowing it might not come again doesn’t make it sad—it makes it sacred.
You were the most gentlest soul. So forgiving, kind and warm. Your loss left a void or a hole in my chest which won’t ever be filled. No matter how many people I meet but that space left behind will never be filled by anyone.
Years after you left us, I read this quote on how cruel and difficult life has to be for someone to become so kind. Life was never easy for you. You were so young; came into a completely different family. The challenges you faced because of someone else’s insecurities and lack of morals. Your grace and your approach are still talked about in all the tribal family. I wish times weren’t so cruel and people weren’t that heartless.
I still remember the first time when I was travelling to The States and That one last hug I gave you while I wept thinking how fragile and old you were and questioned If I will ever be able to hold you again. It was a horrible feeling. I just wept for the entire time on your shoulder, you knew I was upset of going so far away for so long yet you just sat there quietly. Our tea times, Ludo (you always chose the blue color) games, how I used to think of you everytime I used to go for shopping and you told me you liked blues, greens and mustards. I always used to see what to get for you before proceeding with what I wanted for myself. Whenever we used to be on our flight back from vacation the only excitement I had was to see you. I knew there’s one person back home eagerly waiting and praying for our safe return. When you left that feeling ended and there was nothing to come back to.
The way you used to tell me about my craze to buy things and shop. The careless way I would talk my heart out and gossip with you. The two bedtime stories you used to tell us before we slept, and always used to hear it with the same level of excitement.
When you left I just felt empty. I couldn’t talk about your absence/loss for over a month. I used to wake and check my phone for your missed call, I was so used to talking to you first thing in the morning that I wanted to believe you might have called. Every time someone would bring up what had happened i’d just tear up and tried to focus on breathing. You’re in a place where there’s peace and your loved ones. Hopefully we meet on the right time because I want to hold you forever.
I’m leaving a digital footprint. For years to come. Because you need to remembered forever. People and bonds like you are impossible to find.
-12th November 2018
This post is dedicated to my Dadi (Paternal Grandmother).
You will forever be there in our hearts and we’ll tell about your gentleness and kindness to the people who weren’t lucky enough to meet you.
Hey gals! Okay so I am obsessed with perfumes have almost 3 dozens of different fragrances and I always get my stock when travelling. If you’re from Pakistan, I would never recommend you investing in perfumes out here, I highly doubt they’re selling first hand perfumes except a few selective shops. Highly selective. But it’s still risky investing in anything expensive here. Anyways the best place to get perfumes from is when you’re abroad and travelling.
Autumn has started and winters are right around the corner, I have a few particular scents I specifically use during fall. Most of these aren’t the sweet or fruity (fresh) perfumes you’d use in the summers (but there are a few exceptions). These are a bit woody, chocolatety, vanilla, warm florals and spicy scents and tiny bit sweet too. And honestly I don’t know about you but I don’t like fresh floral throughout the year or even a scent heavily smelling like roses, it’s a huge no. Ew. I rather go for jasmine than roses.
JO MALONE MYRRH & TONKA COLOGNE INTENSE
This is my Top Favourite perfumes for winters! I am literally obsessed with the scent and how amazing it makes you feel. This is definitely a compliment getter as well. Everyone asks me what i’m wearing when I have this perfume on. This is unisex so it can be used by men and women both. Perfect for the winters. It has warm almond and vanilla notes. It’s not sweet. It’s just intense and woody (a perfect balance). My number 1 favourite perfume. I got my first bottle of Jo Malone perfume from their shop near the Louvre in Paris’2019 (and I just checked it’s gotten permanently closed now; post Covid).
Chanel N5 EDP
This is powdery, Vanilla yet a tinge of spice in a bottle. This is a classic favourite and almost every girl/woman has this on her dresser. But for me in particular this perfume holds a very special place. My Late Beloved Grandmother gifted me this perfume a year before she left us, this scent just is very close to my heart. This perfume I can use summer and winters, or whenever I miss her I just wear it. It gives me a feeling of warmth and comfort.
Chanel Chance Eau Tendre
Absolutely love this perfume since 2019. This is something you can use throughout the year summer, spring, autumn and winters. This is sweeter than all the other perfumes mentioned here. I don’t like the fragrance of rose and I was just reading about the notes this has and as surprising it can get, rose notes inside of it. But Thank God they aren’t obvious. It’s sort of fruity floral. If you like something with the perfect sweet balance definitely go for this.
Kayali DÈJÀ VU White Flower| 57
This again is a warm floral scent. It doesn’t blow on your face but it’s subtle yet very captivating. I had been wanting to get my hands on this amazing scent and I finally got it right before we flew out of LA these summers. I went rushing to the nearest Sephora(Pasadena) which was about 5 minute walk from my hotel and got it. This scent just grabs your attention. A must have if you’re someone who wants to invest in good perfumes.
GUCCI GUILTY POUR FEMME EDP
This has been my signature scent since 7-8 years now. I went for this new one this time (got it from LAX on my way back home)! I have used 2 bottles of their original gucci guilty and this was something I thought was a safe investment considering how much I really like this line of perfume from Gucci. Perfect for everyday! This again has a warm floral scent.
DIOR SAUVAGE Edp
Okay so this is a perfume for men but I use this in winters. This is woody with vanilla and bit of citrus. I just love this in winters specifically. It gives you that cozy and warm fuzzy feeling. Perfect for winters. Would recommend this to all the ladies if you like strong woody perfumes for winters.
MY BURBERRY BLACK EDP
This is yet another compliment getter. Yet again; I cannot explain it but this is a very strong, warm and spicy scent. That is what I exactly prefer for winters/autumn. This has floral notes but they aren’t as obvious as the original My Burberry this is a bit more intense. It’s not all girly girly type of perfume with sugary hints, it’s quite woody. I have 3 My Burberry perfumes; The Original, Blush and this black. Black is perfect for winters.
DIOR ADDICT EDT
This again is one of my my signature scents since I was 20. It has the perfect balance of sweet, citrus, fruity, woody, warm florals and vanilla. I would buy this over and over again. I know it’s an EDT but this stays on and has a very enchanting scent. I have no words for this scent except that it’s unique and beautiful.
I haven’t been regular at posting blogs! I’m coming up with new ideas and will definitely be working on them. Stay tuned for more!🤍
