Category Archives: Toxic Culture

2025, Love, Love yourself, Self care, Self love, Skin Care, Toxic Culture, YOLO, You, You matter, You only live once

The Power of Being You

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We live in a time where scrolling through social media often feels like flipping through a magazine of edited perfection. Celebrities and influencers have access to makeup artists, fillers, Photoshop, and filters—and yet, we compare ourselves to them in our most natural state. No wonder so many people feel insecure.

But here’s the truth: you don’t need fake lashes, fake nails, or endless beauty treatments to be worthy of love and confidence. You are beautiful as you are. That doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy makeup, skincare, or even high-maintenance procedures if they make you feel good—it just means your value doesn’t depend on them.

Everyone has their own version of beauty. What makes you stand out isn’t how much you look like an influencer, but how much you look like yourself. When you stop chasing the illusion of perfection, you’ll find that your natural features, your quirks, and even the things you thought were “flaws” are what make you unique.

So take a break from comparing. Put the phone down for a while. Look in the mirror without filters, and remind yourself: this is me—and I am enough.

2025, 🇵🇰, Islam, Peace over anything, People refusing to grow with time, South Punjab, Toxic Brown Culture, Toxic Culture, Toxic Pakistani Culture, Toxic Relatives, wise words 👏🏻, Women matter, You matter

Between Culture and Compassion

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When a mother has a baby girl, people sometimes respond with comments like, “Don’t worry, maybe you’ll have a boy next time,” as if having a daughter is somehow disappointing. These remarks often reflect outdated beliefs or personal biases, rather than any real issue. The truth is, daughters are just as valuable and bring their own unique joy to a family. The connection between daughters and their parents—especially with their fathers—can be incredibly strong and meaningful. Every child is a gift, regardless of gender.

Let me be clear — I don’t associate myself with feminist ideology. But I also believe that expecting women to suffer in silence, to sacrifice endlessly without emotional support or understanding, is something I can’t accept.

We live in a time where women still feel pressured to marry based on societal expectations, not emotional connection. Many go through heartbreak, yet are expected to carry on — often having child after child in homes where love and care may be missing. It’s heartbreaking, and it’s real.

Our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) married Bibi Khadija (RA), a widow who proposed to him. Islam honored women and gave them the right to choose. But somewhere along the way, culture and customs overshadowed that message. Today, a woman taking a step forward for herself is often misunderstood or unfairly judged.

This isn’t about blaming anyone. It’s about rethinking what we’ve normalized.

Women deserve respect, choice, and emotional safety — just like men do. We need to build a society where both are treated with fairness and dignity. It’s not about one being above the other — it’s about walking side by side.

I will always be grateful to my angel of a father. He wasn’t a typical Baloch father — he gave me freedom, respect, and unwavering admiration. He loved me with a kindness and understanding that shaped who I am. Since his passing, I’ve felt permanently deprived of that kind of love and comfort. He was my safe place, my constant — the one I could turn to no matter how hard life got. My friend, my strength, my father — my everything.

I truly wish more fathers could be like him — trusting, loving, and always holding a soft spot for their daughters, no matter what.

2024, Baloch Family, People refusing to grow with time, Toxic Culture

Note to myself.

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I absolutely loved focusing on my education and career. I wanted to be self reliant and never rely on some man to pay for me. That is what I had in my head when I was in my student years. I was the most hard working one in my group, heavily focused on the presentations, exams and all the class participation. I always stood out and almost every teacher pointed it out. I was so aware about what was happening on in this country and all the international news. Maybe it was my love for reading papers, scrolling through twitter and get all the latest updates or my father generally discussing what’s happening around the world.

I had so many dreams and ambitions. But I forgot the backward environment I belonged from. Sure I have traveled more than an average woman of my age. That broadened my horizons. Changed how I looked at things and people. Made me want to dissociate with people real quick. Life is too short to be around people you aren’t certain of.

When I was in my undergrad I had made it clear to my parents that I had a few universities in my head for my postgrad. Particularly King’s College London. While there was still time left the topic wasn’t really argued upon. But as soon as I graduated and obtained the GPA for the university I wanted to get into my sweet mother told me how girls from our culture can’t go abroad for further studies. That is the moment my world came crashing down. My parents could have easily sent me abroad and it was a one year course with no break straight. But the sick thought of what might the “society” say made them kill my goals and dreams. I wanted to pursue a career in journalism in a renowned foreign news channel. Away from the ruckus of this country.

I never wanted to repeat the cycle of how it was like being a girl from a huge Baloch Family. I had goals and dreams far bigger than this society. But another dream was wasted and life was lost. This all made me regret years of my education and studies. I wish either my family had never given me that exposure and if they did they should’ve been kind enough to encourage me to pursue my ambitions and dreams.

This society is not meant for women. They are only treasured when they suffer quietly and that too when they’re dead. I absolutely loathe it when a woman has to shrink herself for the society to feel big about itself. DONT EVER DO THAT. Support your child regardless of their gender to achieve their dream, careers or just don’t make them dream of it next time if you can’t help them achieve it. We put our culture before anything else without realising how much outdated it is. Repeating the same cycle for generations has led to nothing but a steep decline in a lot of families. Their thoughts and existence is limited. I hope we change the society and make it a better place for people (particularly girls) to pursue what they want.