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Between Culture and Compassion

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When a mother has a baby girl, people sometimes respond with comments like, “Don’t worry, maybe you’ll have a boy next time,” as if having a daughter is somehow disappointing. These remarks often reflect outdated beliefs or personal biases, rather than any real issue. The truth is, daughters are just as valuable and bring their own unique joy to a family. The connection between daughters and their parents—especially with their fathers—can be incredibly strong and meaningful. Every child is a gift, regardless of gender.

Let me be clear — I don’t associate myself with feminist ideology. But I also believe that expecting women to suffer in silence, to sacrifice endlessly without emotional support or understanding, is something I can’t accept.

We live in a time where women still feel pressured to marry based on societal expectations, not emotional connection. Many go through heartbreak, yet are expected to carry on — often having child after child in homes where love and care may be missing. It’s heartbreaking, and it’s real.

Our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) married Bibi Khadija (RA), a widow who proposed to him. Islam honored women and gave them the right to choose. But somewhere along the way, culture and customs overshadowed that message. Today, a woman taking a step forward for herself is often misunderstood or unfairly judged.

This isn’t about blaming anyone. It’s about rethinking what we’ve normalized.

Women deserve respect, choice, and emotional safety — just like men do. We need to build a society where both are treated with fairness and dignity. It’s not about one being above the other — it’s about walking side by side.

I will always be grateful to my angel of a father. He wasn’t a typical Baloch father — he gave me freedom, respect, and unwavering admiration. He loved me with a kindness and understanding that shaped who I am. Since his passing, I’ve felt permanently deprived of that kind of love and comfort. He was my safe place, my constant — the one I could turn to no matter how hard life got. My friend, my strength, my father — my everything.

I truly wish more fathers could be like him — trusting, loving, and always holding a soft spot for their daughters, no matter what.

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Women in this society

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What comes to our minds when we think about women? Except for the fact that they can literally make another human being, they make your walls a home with their warmth. If you have a daughter as a father she will probably love you more than anyone else. As a sister she will be your confidant . As a wife she’ll be your companion(only when treated right). But is this what women are only known as? Life/care givers? (I’m talking about majority of the women but there are a few exceptional cases who’re the complete opposite).

While she is conveniently living upto all the roles thrown at her we forget she too is a human being with goals, needs and emotions. Women are actually the most strongest yet the most fragile creatures alive. She goes through so many changes that almost break her, but she always gets through to all this and gets up stronger. There’s a lot of intolerance towards how you’re suppose to go about your life.

Pre Islamic times people used to bury their tiny newborn daughters, with no remorse whatsoever. Our Prophet(Pbuh) gave so many examples and rules on how you’re suppose to treat a lady. Once Islam came it gave women so many rights. They were businesswomen and self reliant. Our backward culture however has taken us back to those medieval times. You see so many people go and perform umrah or even hajj and they become more corrupt and a bigger fraud. You mistreating someone and going for pilgrimage won’t really help you in the next world. Moving forward I feel bad for the girls in this society generally particularly the ones who literally have no exposure, haven’t seen anything in this world except for the place where they’re born and bred. They literally have no expectations from their lives other than settling down with whatever’s convenient and later living with that decision throughout their life. The exposure actually helps you grow your thinking and shapes your personality on so many different levels. It makes you tolerate less bullshit and see people as what they are, not who they pretend to be. It’s like the woman has no life of her own other than living on other peoples terms and expectations. A woman is no commodity you can trade or keep. You need to act a certain way in order to make sure her self worth is never compromised.

I hope this society grows a brain and realises there is more to this world than what you see or know. However if you can’t let your brain to evolve with time please don’t bother coming out from your cave the world doesn’t need your existence.

This post is dedicated to all the girls/women standing up for themselves and I hope (those who aren’t) you all stop letting people walk all over you. You’re bigger than this society and its misogynistic mindset!