If you could erase one trend from history, what would it be?
If I could erase one trend from history, it would be the need to please society. You get one life, yet so many people waste it chasing approval from people who won’t be there when they’re hurting and who would barely pause if you ceased to exist tomorrow. No matter how much you sacrifice, someone will always expect more, and the only person left drained is you. Be kind. Be respectful. But never let the fear of judgment dictate your choices. Live on your own terms because the people you’re trying so hard to impress will never have to live with the consequences of your life. You will.
There’s a popular belief that when you die, your brain replays the best seven minutes of your life. Whether that’s true or not, I hope those moments are filled with memories of love, courage, laughter, and a life lived on your own terms. Because the greatest tragedy isn’t dying. It’s looking back and realizing the life you lived was written by everyone except you.
Success in life comes from keeping your intentions clean, your actions consistent, and your expectations realistic. Do good because it aligns with who you are, not because you’re counting on something back, and you’ll avoid a lot of disappointment. Treat people with kindness, but know when to take a stand and be direct when something isn’t right. If you can help someone, do it, even in small ways, because you never know what someone is going through, and there is a quiet peace in that, something I learned from my beloved Aba. Keep moving forward even when things feel unfair or slow, because you are your biggest hero, and the life you build depends on how steadily you show up for yourself.
What does “having it all” mean to you? Is it attainable?
Having it all means being at peace with what you have. Being content. There is always someone better and something better than what you own, but you are enough for yourself, and that is the only comparison that ultimately matters. True contentment comes when you realise how exhausting it is to constantly want more while ignoring the fact that what you already have may be enough. It takes a strong mind to reach that place, and it is never easy, but with time, unnecessary noise stops holding meaning.
We have always heard this quote on what goes around always comes around. We reap what we sow.
Over time, I’ve come to believe that karma and the cycle of life are real. People eventually face consequences for what they do, even if it seems like they’ve gotten away with deceit or fraud. It’s not just actions, but even negative intentions or harmful thoughts toward others that can come back later. Sometimes, those consequences don’t hit directly but affect someone close to you, pulling them into the cycle you created.
Where there is bad, there is also good. The kindness you show and the good you do come back to you and the people you love, bringing a sense of peace and contentment. When you move through life with empathy and care for how your words and actions affect others, that compassion finds its way back to you. Even though being gentle in a world full of hypocrisy can feel heavy, that sincerity is not lost—it returns to you and those closest to you in meaningful ways.
I’ve seen people become greedy over things that don’t even belong to them, and no matter how much they chase it, they’re never truly satisfied. Even when they get what they want, they don’t seem able to enjoy it—whether it’s money, land, or a house. You can see in how they live that their greed has made them small and stingy. In a way, that becomes their curse, and their lives turn into examples of what not to become. Misery follows them wherever they go.
In the end, I just hope we grow up around people we can truly look up to, people who lead by example and show us what it means to live with honesty, kindness, and integrity. I feel truly blessed to have had a father like my Aba, someone who showed me what real empathy looks like. His kindness and the way he lived will always be the example I carry with me.
Empathy is what truly makes a person unique, especially in today’s world. People who are genuinely kind, mature, educated, and well traveled often share one important quality: the ability to understand and feel for others. They do not see themselves as superior, and they do not treat others with indifference. Instead, they show basic human decency in the way they speak, act, and respond to the people around them.
For me, empathy stands above everything else. It is not just about being nice. It is about being aware, respectful, and emotionally present. At a time when many people are quick to judge or dismiss others, empathy feels rare, and that is exactly why it matters so much.
The most empathetic person I have ever known was my father. He felt things deeply and treated people with genuine kindness, yet he was firm when he needed to be. He had a quiet ability to understand people just by being around them, almost as if he could read their emotions without a single word. His empathy was never a weakness. It was his strength, and it shaped the way he connected with everyone he met.
To me, that is what truly makes someone unique. Not their achievements or their status, but their ability to treat others with compassion and understanding.
If you could be someone else for a day, who would you be, and why?
If I could be someone else for a day, I would choose to be my grandmother.
When she got married and came into this family, she was completely alone. She had no support system, no lobby, and no one to defend her, especially since she came from a completely different family background. Despite this, she treated everyone with kindness and respect. She was extremely good to people, even to those who were jealous of her and secretly plotted against her or her children.
Many women in the family were insecure because she was more graceful, capable, and dignified than anyone else. Yet she never showed arrogance. She remained humble and carried herself with elegance. I often wonder how it feels to respond to envy and negativity with such calmness and grace.
People often tell me that I resemble her. That comparison is an honor, but it also makes me reflect deeply. I don’t feel like I am even half as strong as my dadi was. She faced difficult situations with patience and faith. She always told me to pray — in good days and in bad. She believed that prayer keeps a person steady through hardship and humble during ease. I think that is what helped her survive everything with dignity.
If I could be her for a day, I would want to understand her strength — how she stayed kind in the face of unkindness and calm while others secretly competed with her. A part of me sometimes wishes she had put people in their place. Still, her patience, faith, and quiet power are what make her truly remarkable. I would want to experience that inner strength and learn from it.
Life is never easy. It is a constant struggle. No one has it easy. Our times have become more complicated because of constant comparison, especially on social media. I prefer a simpler life — away from the spotlight, in peace, where people do not know my personal business.
I believe peace matters more than attention. And sometimes, distance is necessary, even from people related by blood. Because being family does not always mean being good.
As the year begins to wind down, November arrives with a quiet kind of wisdom. It asks us to pause—to breathe, reflect, and honor the journey we’ve taken so far.
This year may not have been easy. For many of us, it’s carried loss, heartache, and moments that felt heavier than words could hold. The chaos, the calm, the endings we didn’t expect, and the beginnings we didn’t plan—all of it has shaped us. Even the pain has purpose, even the grief has taught us something about love, resilience, and what truly matters.
November isn’t about rushing to the finish line; it’s about recognizing how far we’ve come. It’s about holding space for the joy and the sorrow, the light and the shadow, and realizing that both can exist together.
Now, with only a few more days left until 2026, let this be your reminder: make them count. Life is fragile, unpredictable, and precious. Do what you want with your days—follow what brings you peace, chase what sparks your spirit, and love deeply, because love is what endures.
I may not know what 2026 will bring, but I do know this — I’m still standing, still learning, still becoming. And maybe that’s enough.
