Category Archives: Healing

~ Void

What’s a moment when you realized you were officially an adult?

I think you only truly become an adult when you lose the person who made you feel safe in a world where people are always looking for your vulnerabilities. For me, that person was my father. Whenever I fell, I knew he would be there. No matter what. Any issue, Aba was just a call away. If I needed emotional support, he was there, giving me his undivided attention. If I wanted something, I knew I could ask him. He rarely ever said no to me. I never had to question who had my back.

Losing him made me realize that life doesn’t stop when you lose your biggest support. You just have to learn to pick yourself up, protect yourself, and keep going. Even on the days when you want to give up, when all you want is them, when all you want is to feel safe again. I think that’s the hardest part of growing up: realizing that the person who always made you feel like you could handle anything is no longer there to catch you when you fall. And that has changed something in me. I am no longer the person I was. That’s what grief does to you, it changes you into a someone else. You know you’re no longer anyone’s priority anymore. It does make you strong. You grow a thicker skin to deal with this world and its people.

-Sehr

– The Weight Of Reality & Pessimism

If you could rewrite any book’s ending, which one would you choose?

“The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.” — Socrates

Honestly, I wouldn’t rewrite a book just to give it a happy ending. Happy endings can be comforting, but not every story should end with happiness, closure, or peace. Life rarely does. Stories that embrace uncertainty, loss, or bittersweet endings often feel more honest because they reflect the human experience.

My father was a student of philosophy. When I was younger, many of the things he said didn’t make sense to me. Over time, I realized they were all connected, shaped by experience rather than abstract ideas. There are hundreds of books he collected over the years, filling shelves with history, philosophy, and literature. They are more than a collection to me now. They are reminders of his curiosity, his wisdom, and the conversations we never got to finish. His reading glasses are still there, along with his collection of Persol glasses, exactly where he left them. Sometimes they make it feel as though he has only stepped away for a moment.

My happiest chapter ended the day I said goodbye to him. God, how much he filled my life with love, laughter, and everything I could have ever wished for. Since then, I’ve understood that the longer we live, the more loved ones we lose. Grief is not the opposite of love. It is the price we pay for it.

The only ending we all truly share is death. Until then, life is full of unanswered questions, imperfect resolutions, and moments that can feel empty. That is what makes it real. I think books should capture that reality instead of pretending every journey ends with everything falling into place. The stories that stay with us are often the ones that remind us life is beautiful, painful, unpredictable, and unfinished.

~S

The family you choose.

Jot down the first thing that comes to your mind.

Having good people in your life matters more than anything. People who truly want the best for you, guide you, and speak well of you even when you’re not around. I may not have many friends, but the ones I do have always stand by me. What we share is real and mutual.

Friends are the family you choose. They lift you when you’re down, and being with them just feels right. No filters, no pretending.

It’s important to find People who make you realize there’s nothing wrong with being who you are.

The Power of Empathy

Which aspects do you think makes a person unique?

Empathy is what truly makes a person unique, especially in today’s world. People who are genuinely kind, mature, educated, and well traveled often share one important quality: the ability to understand and feel for others. They do not see themselves as superior, and they do not treat others with indifference. Instead, they show basic human decency in the way they speak, act, and respond to the people around them.

For me, empathy stands above everything else. It is not just about being nice. It is about being aware, respectful, and emotionally present. At a time when many people are quick to judge or dismiss others, empathy feels rare, and that is exactly why it matters so much.

The most empathetic person I have ever known was my father. He felt things deeply and treated people with genuine kindness, yet he was firm when he needed to be. He had a quiet ability to understand people just by being around them, almost as if he could read their emotions without a single word. His empathy was never a weakness. It was his strength, and it shaped the way he connected with everyone he met.

To me, that is what truly makes someone unique. Not their achievements or their status, but their ability to treat others with compassion and understanding.

Sehr.

November is a reminder

As the year begins to wind down, November arrives with a quiet kind of wisdom. It asks us to pause—to breathe, reflect, and honor the journey we’ve taken so far.

This year may not have been easy. For many of us, it’s carried loss, heartache, and moments that felt heavier than words could hold. The chaos, the calm, the endings we didn’t expect, and the beginnings we didn’t plan—all of it has shaped us. Even the pain has purpose, even the grief has taught us something about love, resilience, and what truly matters.

November isn’t about rushing to the finish line; it’s about recognizing how far we’ve come. It’s about holding space for the joy and the sorrow, the light and the shadow, and realizing that both can exist together.

Now, with only a few more days left until 2026, let this be your reminder: make them count. Life is fragile, unpredictable, and precious. Do what you want with your days—follow what brings you peace, chase what sparks your spirit, and love deeply, because love is what endures.

I may not know what 2026 will bring, but I do know this — I’m still standing, still learning, still becoming. And maybe that’s enough.

Things you need to stop taking for granted.

People

You only realise when you’ve taken someone’s presence for granted when you search for them and all you see is emptiness. A void or a hole in your chest which won’t ever be filled. No matter how many people you meet but that space left behind will never be filled by anyone. When waking up everyday we think the people around us are going to be there forever. We make our plans our routines being selfish until we realise the people who needed our time the most might not be there tomorrow, next month or the coming year. And when the loss hits you, you can’t utter a word, you try to speak words remembering them but you can’t. You remember the time you spent with them, the way you would put your head in their lap, the bedtime stories and the warm hugs. Ultimately we all move on from a dear one’s loss of life but we can never get over it. We grow around the grief of losing a loved one. A bond which can no longer be seen but felt deeply. So if you still have people who matter the most to you in this world make sure to tell them they’re loved and cherished before it’s too late. This can be immediate family and extremely close friends. You never know how long someone’s going to be there or how much someone needs to know they matter.

Time

When we’re young we forget how quickly time is going by. We take tomorrows for granted. We take our own time for granted. We prioritize the wrong things in life and ultimately when someone gets old all that is left is regret to make better use of our time. Time is literally flying and it hits you when you are a certain age and you see how things have changed and how things are now. This is your time, do whatever you want, wear your favourite sweater/outfit, put on your favourite perfume, get your hair coloured the way you want and wear your favourite pair of shoes, make plans, travel and focus on yourself. What if you have all those things but you no longer desire to dress up or dine out or go to your favourite place anymore? Circumstances and time changes a lot of things and because of this we too change. Our life, our surroundings and most importantly our mood. So try living in the present for yourself. This world is a bitter place and you deserve to do what you have to do in order to stay sane and happy. You come before anyone else, everyone and everything else comes later.

Health/Appearance

One of the phobias I have is Acne and being Fat. I cannot emphasis how much I dislike it when someone is extremely careless about their appearance. You don’t get fat overnight. It’s the lifestyle you follow and the poor diet habits you make which have led you to become like a balloon. Secondly for skin. I’m not saying you should have baby skin but at least it should be taken care of. Have a basic skin care routine and get clinical facials. Sure some people are genetically blessed with good skin but if you’re not you should start investing on yourself. Doctors give proper Accutane course for acne, it’s pricey and turns your skin into Sahara desert, but it’s only for 6 months. Someone who doesn’t take care of their appearance shows how much they truly don’t respect themselves and are pure lazy. There are tons of laser treatments to combat different skin concerns, but there are a few professional doctors who are good at what they do. Next focus on a clean and healthy diet and get your blood work done at least twice a year to see if your healthy diet is actually benefiting you.

Lastly I’d like to add is that tomorrow is never promised and yesterday is already gone, all you have is today and try making the most of it by doing what makes you feel good & happy. Draw boundaries and keep away from people you aren’t comfortable with.Don’t ever let someone make you feel bad about yourself or a situation. Peace.