Category Archives: Consideration

– Fleeting

There will always be someone who is better than you in every worldly sense, someone with more money, more success, a better career, a bigger house, a nicer car, or a life that looks more beautiful from the outside. But you, as a person, know who you truly are and how good of a human being you are when no one is watching. Most of the time, simply because we are born into a certain place, family, or privilege, we grow up believing that we are entitled to everything life has to offer. And I am not saying we should be ungrateful for what we have, because gratitude matters. But sometimes I wonder, what are we really? When everything is stripped away, are we anything more than bones, skin, a beating heart, and a soul trying to make sense of this life?

Why is it so easy for us to forget that time is constantly slipping through our fingers like sand, while we are busy chasing things that will eventually mean nothing? We need to spend more time becoming better human beings, because people will not remember your looks or worldly possessions. They will remember how you treated them, how you made them feel, how you showed up when they needed you, and how much kindness you left behind. And when you are gone, none of the material things you spent your life chasing will matter anymore. What will remain is the love you gave, the lives you touched, and the person you chose to be while you were here. That is the only legacy that truly lives beyond us 🤍

–Sehr

~ Empathy & Consideration

What’s a skill you consider basic, that most people don’t actually know how to do?

Empathy and consideration. You can’t really teach these things to someone. Some people naturally have the ability to put themselves in another person’s place, while others simply don’t. Empathy is being able to see yourself in someone else’s situation before judging them. Consideration is understanding that your words and actions can affect someone, even when you don’t intend them to. I think both come from being able to look beyond yourself and remember that everyone is carrying something you may not see. At the end of the day, it’s simply about being human enough to think, “What if that were me?”

No Guarantees, Only Moments

Life?

Life is a series of unpredictable events. Nothing and no one is ever certain. Even your own existence might not be there for the things you have planned. The people around you, your friends, they are with you only if they truly value you not for what they can gain. True bonds are unconditional. You should be able to trust someone completely, eyes closed, without hesitation.

We spend so much time planning unaware of what might happen along the way. That is why it is important to live life on your own terms. You only live once. Make sure that when you leave this world you can be at peace knowing you never settled for the bare minimum just because society expected it. Most of us realize this after our mid-twenties and then life becomes a journey of self-exploration.

Make the most of the time you have before it is too late and you are left with regrets. Every moment should be cherished. The only thing we can control is the present and how we face it not the past or the future. Overthinking destroys our present. I do it myself and it brings anxiety. Sometimes all I can do is reach out to those close to me and let them help calm my mind.

Life is unpredictable but it is beautiful. The key is to live it fully, love deeply, and hold onto what truly matters.

Sehr.

Strength Is Not Always Loud

If you could be someone else for a day, who would you be, and why?

If I could be someone else for a day, I would choose to be my grandmother.

When she got married and came into this family, she was completely alone. She had no support system, no lobby, and no one to defend her, especially since she came from a completely different family background. Despite this, she treated everyone with kindness and respect. She was extremely good to people, even to those who were jealous of her and secretly plotted against her or her children.

Many women in the family were insecure because she was more graceful, capable, and dignified than anyone else. Yet she never showed arrogance. She remained humble and carried herself with elegance. I often wonder how it feels to respond to envy and negativity with such calmness and grace.

People often tell me that I resemble her. That comparison is an honor, but it also makes me reflect deeply. I don’t feel like I am even half as strong as my dadi was. She faced difficult situations with patience and faith. She always told me to pray — in good days and in bad. She believed that prayer keeps a person steady through hardship and humble during ease. I think that is what helped her survive everything with dignity.

If I could be her for a day, I would want to understand her strength — how she stayed kind in the face of unkindness and calm while others secretly competed with her. A part of me sometimes wishes she had put people in their place. Still, her patience, faith, and quiet power are what make her truly remarkable. I would want to experience that inner strength and learn from it.

Life is never easy. It is a constant struggle. No one has it easy. Our times have become more complicated because of constant comparison, especially on social media. I prefer a simpler life — away from the spotlight, in peace, where people do not know my personal business.

I believe peace matters more than attention. And sometimes, distance is necessary, even from people related by blood. Because being family does not always mean being good.

Little Annoyances, Big Impact: My Pet Peeves

Name your top three pet peeves.

We all have little things that can instantly bother us, things that might seem small but really affect how we feel around others. For me, it’s the everyday habits and gestures that reflect consideration, hygiene, and respect. From how someone treats a shared space to the way they carry themselves, these details matter more than most people realize.

1)People walking on carpets or rugs with outside shoes – It really bothers me when someone steps onto a carpet or rug with the same shoes they’ve worn all over the city. Shoes pick up dirt, germs, dust, and all kinds of things from sidewalks, streets, and public places. Bringing all of that into a home — especially onto a surface people sit on, walk barefoot on, or relax on — feels disrespectful and unhygienic. At home, you should have a separate pair of slippers or slides that are only meant for indoor use. They stay clean, protect the floors, and help keep the entire living space hygienic. It’s such a simple habit, but it makes a huge difference in maintaining a clean and comfortable home environment.

2)Arrogance and lack of basic empathy or manners – I can’t stand when someone carries themselves as if they’re above everyone else, acting like they’re more important or entitled. That kind of attitude completely ignores the fact that nobody is obligated to “prove” themselves or compete to be a somebody. What truly matters is empathy — treating people with basic respect and humanity. Simple gestures like holding the door for someone, helping a person pick up something they dropped, or actually listening without cutting them off mid-conversation say so much more about a person’s character. When someone lacks these small but meaningful courtesies and chooses arrogance instead, it’s really off-putting and makes interactions feel cold and dismissive.

3)Poorly trimmed or uneven nails – One of the first things I notice about a person is their hands, so when someone has uneven, jagged, or poorly trimmed nails, it immediately stands out to me. It’s not about perfection, but when nails look neglected or uneven, it genuinely makes me anxious. Hands are such a visible part of how we present ourselves, and keeping nails clean and neatly trimmed shows care, hygiene, and attention to detail. When someone doesn’t take a moment to maintain them, it’s hard for me to ignore.

In the end, it’s the small gestures—thoughtfulness, respect, and care—that make the biggest difference and leave a lasting impression.