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Strength Is Not Always Loud

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If you could be someone else for a day, who would you be, and why?

If I could be someone else for a day, I would choose to be my grandmother.

When she got married and came into this family, she was completely alone. She had no support system, no lobby, and no one to defend her, especially since she came from a completely different family background. Despite this, she treated everyone with kindness and respect. She was extremely good to people, even to those who were jealous of her and secretly plotted against her or her children.

Many women in the family were insecure because she was more graceful, capable, and dignified than anyone else. Yet she never showed arrogance. She remained humble and carried herself with elegance. I often wonder how it feels to respond to envy and negativity with such calmness and grace.

People often tell me that I resemble her. That comparison is an honor, but it also makes me reflect deeply. I don’t feel like I am even half as strong as my dadi was. She faced difficult situations with patience and faith. She always told me to pray — in good days and in bad. She believed that prayer keeps a person steady through hardship and humble during ease. I think that is what helped her survive everything with dignity.

If I could be her for a day, I would want to understand her strength — how she stayed kind in the face of unkindness and calm while others secretly competed with her. A part of me sometimes wishes she had put people in their place. Still, her patience, faith, and quiet power are what make her truly remarkable. I would want to experience that inner strength and learn from it.

Life is never easy. It is a constant struggle. No one has it easy. Our times have become more complicated because of constant comparison, especially on social media. I prefer a simpler life — away from the spotlight, in peace, where people do not know my personal business.

I believe peace matters more than attention. And sometimes, distance is necessary, even from people related by blood. Because being family does not always mean being good.

Boundaries, Comparison culture, Digital Era, Privacy, Smartphones

The Digital Disaster: Smartphones and Social Media Combined

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What technology would you be better off without, why?

If there is any technology I could walk away from without hesitation, it would be smartphones, especially when combined with social media. That mix has quietly damaged our peace, privacy, and confidence in ways we often overlook.

Smartphones make everyone far too reachable. It does not matter what you are doing or how you are feeling. Someone can message, call, or DM you at any moment, and there is an unspoken expectation that you should reply quickly. It is mentally draining. It feels like carrying a door around that people can knock on whenever they want, even when you need silence.

Social media adds another layer of chaos. The impact on children is especially worrying. Kids grow up comparing themselves to filtered faces and perfectly staged lives that are presented as normal. They measure themselves against illusions long before they even understand their own identity. It affects their self esteem before they even know what self esteem really is.

Women face another type of pressure. Influencers present flawless skin, perfect bodies, and perfect lifestyles that are often created with filters, editing, or even complete fabrication. If you saw many of them without filters you would not recognize them. Yet these altered images become the standards that real women feel pressured to match. It turns natural beauty into something people feel embarrassed about instead of proud of.

Men also face constant comparison. They look at influencers showing off expensive watches, cars, and luxury lifestyles that are often sponsored, borrowed, or temporarily given for advertising. Some follow “fitness freaks” online who use steroids or have had multiple surgeries to achieve their physiques. These influencers present it as everyday life while regular men feel like they are falling behind. It creates stress and insecurity based on something that was never real to begin with.

My own experience pushed me to step back even more. My blog account is mostly private and only rarely public because of the nosy lurkers who somehow find it. People from distant family circles, people I barely know, and people I do not even like show up. Some try to follow, some lurk quietly, and some are just plain strange. I have blocked more than 70 of them already. Seventy. My blog is my safe space, and I cannot tolerate people I do not want there. I literally block unwanted accounts without thinking twice. Some of these people I do not even know exist, yet they somehow think they have a right to be there.

It is strange how technology that was supposed to help us connect has ended up making us feel watched, judged, and overwhelmed. Smartphones and social media promised convenience and community, but instead they created an environment full of pressure, comparison, and unwanted eyes.

Maybe the real problem is not the technology itself. It is how deeply it has seeped into our lives, to the point where we need to hide, block, and guard ourselves just to feel normal. Just because you somehow have access to a phone, the internet, and social media does not mean you get to poke your nose into other people’s business.

Peace.